Sun♡day devotional 1

Tonight Lord, we pray for the stay-at-home mamas who work from home. Although an incredible blessing, it is such incredibly laborious work. Day in and day out Lord, these mamas are constantly feeling under pressure. Between sharing their time between their child(ren) and their work, they are never left to take a breath. The hours are long. There isn’t a clock to punch out on. Lunch breaks are nonexistent. Free time is nonexistent, especially for those who are unable to seek relief from a spouse, family or friends.

The weight is heavy. Lord please be with these mamas as on some days, they are so desperately in need of Your strength and guidance to persevere and move forward. Please be with these mamas Lord to show them that although they may not have physical, earthly help, that they have You. You alone can move mountains. You alone are the most high Jesus Christ.

For those of y’all reading. I have been struggling today. At times, it felt as if I was facing impossible to climb mountains. I have literally prayed all day. I know that the Lord is with me. He has given me the strength to get through this day with grace. It was certainly not an easy one. But I have made it through. And if you are taking a moment to read this, and you have had yourself a weighty day, just know, you have made it through.

I just want you all to know, especially you mamas. It is okay to feel like you’re falling apart some days. Talk with God. He will pick you up. He will put you back together. He will never fail you. You are not alone, and as the beautifully perfectly imperfect child of God that you are, you never will be.

Please pray for these mamas Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen

Mom Guilt

Mom Guilt

Feeling guilty for feeling frustrated and overwhelmed? Yep. Right there with ya mama.

Little Miss Brooklyn Meadow has been havin’ herself a dang day. She threw me for a curveball with her morning nap. Just when I thought (with good reason I might add) that she was getting herself into a napping routine, she decided to switch things up on me. 10:30 nap time turned into 1:30, mom I’m too tired to eat lunch, nap time. Meal times have turned into food fights. The good ol’ toddler days as most of you seasoned mamas like to call it, yes, they most certainly are upon us.

Today I have felt overwhelmed more times than I felt calm and at peace.

And now, while I sit out here with my beautiful baby while she plays in her kiddie pool on this beautiful 90° Oklahoma day, I cannot help but feel like a really, really guilty #blessedmama.

I cannot help but feel upset with myself for feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. Is it because I am overtired? Possibly. Maybe it is because I have not had a free moment to myself in literal weeks because Rob has been so busy with work? That too is a very good possibility.

So then I just have to ask, why, why as mamas are we always so hard on ourselves? I don’t care if you are a stay-at-home mama or a working mama or a working from home, stay-at-home mama. . . We are all on the same struggle bus. #MOMLIFE. Our job, as a mama, is darn tough. We have a lot on our plates! Between keeping the tiny humans alive and taking care of our spouses, our fur babies, our homes, etc., our plates are legitmentally overflowing. Like, we are almost at (needing a) second plate status.

I then ask myself, why, why can’t we look at all of the good we put out into the world, the good that we (more often than not) show our tiny humans on the daily? Why is it, that we are always seemingly striving for perfection? Plain ol’ simple, why can’t we give ourselves a darn break?

And I am sure if y’all have read to this point you’re looking for the golden answer. The end all, be all answer to solve this widespread problem that we are all facing (#momprobs). And I hate to break it to you mamas, but I really don’t have the answer. . . If you’d like, I can link the dozens and dozens of blogs and articles that I have come across in my journey of solving what seems like a “me” problem. However, throughout my search, I was disappointed in my ability to find the proverbial golden ticket.

But here is what I have found to help me (and it may just help y’all too):

First off, remind yourself that you’re a great, not just a good parent, a great one. Repeat after me: “I am a great parent!” I dare you to say this a thousand of times until you are blue in the face! If you didn’t give a damn, you wouldn’t be! Feeling frustrated is normal. Think about all of your non-mom-ing experiences throughout the day that leave you frustrated as all heck. It’s so N O R M A L.

Second, just breathe. Breathe mama, breathe. This too shall pass. You’re human, it is normal to experience overwhelming and frustrating feelings. Be thankful that you aren’t a dang robot who doesn’t experience any sort of emotion whatsoever.

Third, what I have found to help combat my feelings that are overwhelming and frustrating in nature, is to just laugh. Literally, laugh it off. You know what is frustrating you more than anything? Your dang laundry list of to-do’s. Well guess what, they can freakin’ wait! Your laundry, yep, that can get done tomorrow. The work that you have been trying to get to all day? The heck with it. Once your kiddos eventually get down for a nap, or to sleep at the end of the day, get er’ done mama. . . They don’t call us “MOM” for nothing (“MOM” upside down is “WOW” – Curtesy my mama, thank ya girly!). I promise you, once you mentally chuck your laundry list, your current tornado of a situation will either completely take a turn for the better, if not at least, lessen from an F6 (this is literally movie-grade tornado) to a F0 (we Okie’s experience this every other day when we face a storm) real quick.

Lastly mamas, just let it go. Ya heard me right. Let. It. Go. Move it along, and enjoy every precious second you have with your babes. Make each consequent second better than the last. Join mama groups, whether they be in person or virtual – Connect with other mamas, and do what we gals do best, chat it up. You’ll really start to see that you aren’t alone!

And if all else fails, just remember: “There ain’t no hood like motherhood,” and y’all are oh so blessed to be apart of it.

Sweet dreams loves!

Much love –

05♡15♡2019

Tonight Lord, we pray for those suffering from chronic illness. Day to day they struggle Lord, both physically and mentally. At times, they wonder if this will be there forever.

We pray Lord that these warriors know God’s comfort, and that they continue to carry out hope and refrain from getting discouraged. Lord we ask that you please surround these warriors in your loving embrace, and be with them always to remind them to keep the faith.

We ask this in Jesus’ name, Amen

05♡14♡2019

Tonight Lord, we pray for our stay-at-home mamas, whose work is often overlooked and sometimes, undervalued. This mama is home with her babies day and night. She is not given a lunch break, as she is always punching the clock. The hard work that she consistently puts into her child(ren), at times gets tiring. She is tired Lord. At times, she feels breakable. Please be with this mama Lord. We ask You Lord, that You bless her hands. Please show this mama how loved and appreciated she truly is Lord. We ask that You please bring her the strength and fortitude to keep moving forward. We ask this in Jesus’ name, Amen

HOW PICKING A FIGHT WITH YOUR SPOUSE CAN ACTUALLY BE BENEFICIAL

I had this conversation with Rob a number of weeks back.  Yesterday, out of the clear blue, I had felt completely and utterly compelled to get it out on paper.  Or in this instance, get it out on paper, and then transfer it from paper to keyboard.

How many of you are like me, and prefer the act of physically writing over typing?

Anyways, for starters, I think that it is appropriate that I start off by mentioning to y’all, that I am the 👑 of similes and metaphors.  I’m tellin’ ya, I really, really am.

I am going to be super blunt y’all.  The military lifestyle sometimes just ain’t easy.  I do not care how optimistic you are, we all experience weak moments, where we can literally pick apart and list all of the “negatives” of a situation in a half a second flat.  It is just human nature, especially for us gals!

For those of you who do not know, my husband, Rob, is in the midst of his pilot training for the United States Air Force.  So although this is singlehandedly the longest that I have had him consistently home for, realistically we spend most of our days apart.  I however will add, even though he is gone for a majority of each day, I am pretty dang blessed to have him home period.

Anyways, back to my story.  So as many of you can imagine (and I’m sure most of you experience), the stress begins to pile up.  It is inevitable.  A few loads of laundry (thank you Lord for providing me with the clothes necessary to clothe me and my family), a high-energy toddler (thank you Lord for this lil’ mini-me blessing of mine), and the everyday stressors of life will do that to ya.  Y’all get it.

So a few weeks back, in true me fashion, I greeted my husband at the door with a little comin’ to Jesus talk.  You know, those super honest and frank, often unpleasant convos… Especially the ones that you present to your husband, fiancé, boyfriend with, the second that they walk through the door after a long days of work.

I had been frustrated with never getting a break, a true moment to myself to unwind and recharge. In hindsight, it truly wasn’t his fault.  But because I couldn’t take my frustrations out on the inanimate “situation” that was the root of my frustrations, my husband inevitably became my target.  If you’re reading this babe, I am sorry again!

Although I will mention, that this talk certainly brewed for a reason, as it had left me inspired and had offered me a fresh, more positive perspective on life.

To keep it simple y’all, I had equated everything in life to a garden.  Yes, you heard me right, a garden.

I had explained to him (and to myself, because honestly my brain truly has a mind of its own – It literally shocks me when I hear what it is saying out loud all the dang time), that in order for a garden to flourish it must be consistently attended to. Consistency.  Sure gardens require love, nourishment, and care.  But none of that is good enough without ensuring that our love, nourishment, and care is consistently provided.  You can’t just water your garden with buckets and buckets of water one day, and then go back a week later when you’re feeling up to it, to re-water and give yo’ garden some love.  No.  Chances are, your plants were drowned by the over saturation and since dehydration from the days and days without water.  Loving our garden consistently requires taking the effort and making the time to water our garden and care for it daily.  Not just when we feel like it.  Each of us is a garden.  Our life is a garden.  Each task we take on (i.e., our careers, for small business owners, our businesses).  We/it/they require love, nourishment, and care.  In order to sustain balance, consistency is required in its most basic form.  Inconsistency and neglect can be damaging.

And even if we do all of the right things, and always are consistent, that sista ho is not going to create an impermeable force field to prevent bugs and animals from intruding.  No, they will still get in.  They will still cause us headaches, and troubles, and unpleasant moments.  It is the same with life.  Just because we may be doing all of the right things, that doesn’t mean that we are never going to have to cross rocky waters.  That are business successes will never take a dip.  That we will never get laid off.

We may not have perfection or constant stability, but we have God, and that completely supersedes perfection.

I guess, my point in sharing this will y’all, is to highlight two things:

  1. The root of life and human nature is really quite simple.  As complex as you or I may sometimes think humans, human nature, and life is, it really isn’t.  It is a dang garden!
  2. Cash step aside. (Just kidding!)  “Consistency is King.”

Oh!  And for all you ladies reading this, make sure to tell your spouses tonight that your on/off nagging and your every so often coming to Jesus talks, yeah those all “happen for a reason” and (you can tell em’) are from time to time the root of your inspiration and freshened perspective on life.  See men – We really do have a reason for everything we do *cue wink face.*

So with that gals, go forward and have a sparklin’ weekend, and happy mama’s day to all you mama’s out there.  Y’all are so loved and appreciated.

Much love –