HOW PICKING A FIGHT WITH YOUR SPOUSE CAN ACTUALLY BE BENEFICIAL

I had this conversation with Rob a number of weeks back.  Yesterday, out of the clear blue, I had felt completely and utterly compelled to get it out on paper.  Or in this instance, get it out on paper, and then transfer it from paper to keyboard.

How many of you are like me, and prefer the act of physically writing over typing?

Anyways, for starters, I think that it is appropriate that I start off by mentioning to y’all, that I am the πŸ‘‘ of similes and metaphors.  I’m tellin’ ya, I really, really am.

I am going to be super blunt y’all.  The military lifestyle sometimes just ain’t easy.  I do not care how optimistic you are, we all experience weak moments, where we can literally pick apart and list all of the “negatives” of a situation in a half a second flat.  It is just human nature, especially for us gals!

For those of you who do not know, my husband, Rob, is in the midst of his pilot training for the United States Air Force.  So although this is singlehandedly the longest that I have had him consistently home for, realistically we spend most of our days apart.  I however will add, even though he is gone for a majority of each day, I am pretty dang blessed to have him home period.

Anyways, back to my story.  So as many of you can imagine (and I’m sure most of you experience), the stress begins to pile up.  It is inevitable.  A few loads of laundry (thank you Lord for providing me with the clothes necessary to clothe me and my family), a high-energy toddler (thank you Lord for this lil’ mini-me blessing of mine), and the everyday stressors of life will do that to ya.  Y’all get it.

So a few weeks back, in true me fashion, I greeted my husband at the door with a little comin’ to Jesus talk.  You know, those super honest and frank, often unpleasant convos… Especially the ones that you present to your husband, fiancΓ©, boyfriend with, the second that they walk through the door after a long days of work.

I had been frustrated with never getting a break, a true moment to myself to unwind and recharge. In hindsight, it truly wasn’t his fault.  But because I couldn’t take my frustrations out on the inanimate “situation” that was the root of my frustrations, my husband inevitably became my target.  If you’re reading this babe, I am sorry again!

Although I will mention, that this talk certainly brewed for a reason, as it had left me inspired and had offered me a fresh, more positive perspective on life.

To keep it simple y’all, I had equated everything in life to a garden.  Yes, you heard me right, a garden.

I had explained to him (and to myself, because honestly my brain truly has a mind of its own – It literally shocks me when I hear what it is saying out loud all the dang time), that in order for a garden to flourish it must be consistently attended to. Consistency.  Sure gardens require love, nourishment, and care.  But none of that is good enough without ensuring that our love, nourishment, and care is consistently provided.  You can’t just water your garden with buckets and buckets of water one day, and then go back a week later when you’re feeling up to it, to re-water and give yo’ garden some love.  No.  Chances are, your plants were drowned by the over saturation and since dehydration from the days and days without water.  Loving our garden consistently requires taking the effort and making the time to water our garden and care for it daily.  Not just when we feel like it.  Each of us is a garden.  Our life is a garden.  Each task we take on (i.e., our careers, for small business owners, our businesses).  We/it/they require love, nourishment, and care.  In order to sustain balance, consistency is required in its most basic form.  Inconsistency and neglect can be damaging.

And even if we do all of the right things, and always are consistent, that sista ho is not going to create an impermeable force field to prevent bugs and animals from intruding.  No, they will still get in.  They will still cause us headaches, and troubles, and unpleasant moments.  It is the same with life.  Just because we may be doing all of the right things, that doesn’t mean that we are never going to have to cross rocky waters.  That are business successes will never take a dip.  That we will never get laid off.

We may not have perfection or constant stability, but we have God, and that completely supersedes perfection.

I guess, my point in sharing this will y’all, is to highlight two things:

  1. The root of life and human nature is really quite simple.  As complex as you or I may sometimes think humans, human nature, and life is, it really isn’t.  It is a dang garden!
  2. Cash step aside. (Just kidding!)  “Consistency is King.”

Oh!  And for all you ladies reading this, make sure to tell your spouses tonight that your on/off nagging and your every so often coming to Jesus talks, yeah those all “happen for a reason” and (you can tell em’) are from time to time the root of your inspiration and freshened perspective on life.  See men – We really do have a reason for everything we do *cue wink face.*

So with that gals, go forward and have a sparklin’ weekend, and happy mama’s day to all you mama’s out there.  Y’all are so loved and appreciated.

Much love –

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Tonight Lord, we pray for all who suffer from anxiety. Whether it be sporadic and ever-flowing. In and out like the waves. Or, drowning and completely crippling. May all those suffering from anxiety Lord, meet their every fears with faith. May they turn their anxious-ridden thoughts over to your Lord. May they be mamas, papas, grandmamas, grandpops. Just let them know Lord that you are ever present. That you alone are the holy one, you alone are the most high.

Embrace all of those suffering Lord, and allow them to sleep easy tonight and every night. We ask this in Jesus’ name, Amen β™‘

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Hey y’all!

I’m going to put a twist on tonight’s devotional.

I was heavily inspired by a Zoom call that I had with three beautiful gals from my Faith & Friends (virtual) Book Club.

Rather than praying tonight, I would like for y’all to mediate on the following:

Be still β™‘ Give God time

Every time you find yourself needing grounding, a starting point, for when you are faced with hardship (i.e., stress, anxiety, difficult situations), just meditate on the following:

Be still β™‘ Give God time

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Tonight Lord we pray for the mamas who are lacking self-confidence. Whether they are comparing themselves to other mama’s IRL or on social media, they are constantly filled with self-doubt. This mama is constantly running on E. In the mirror she notices the dark circles under her eyes. Her clothes, nothing fits like it did pre-pregnancy. She has lost her youthful glow. She is tired. Please Lord, remind her that she is beautiful. That she is loved. Help her speak kindly to herself Lord. Show her, that she is more beautiful now than ever. We ask this in Jesus’ name, Amen β™‘

Maskcara, what? Why I took the leap of faith + how it has drastically changed my life

Hello y’all! Happy Sunday! What a beautiful freakin’ weekend, hallelujah πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

I cannot help but reminisce on how truly wonderful this weekend was.Β  How was your weekend?

I wanted to take a moment to share with y’all groundbreaking beauty products that have quite literally, changed my life.

I was recently approached by a beauty gal (with a beautiful heart + soul) on Instagram. She had out-of-the-blue reached out to me regarding a semi new-founded beauty and skincare product line. Little did I know at the time, it is truly an all-natural guru + minimalist’s (or as I like to call it, minimal(hot)MESS‘) dream. She had provided me with a glimpse into the magical world of HAC-ing and the revolutionary “5-Minute Face,” which consists of Maskcara’s IIID foundation system.

Like most of y’all when receiving a product-type message, you immediately ward it off. Given that, like most of y’all, you are already in love with the beauty products that you are currently using. And, if not in total love, you are ultra (hm, “Ulta”? How ironic.) comfortable using said products. AND, if you are like me, completely worried that a new product (especially if you have sensitive skin) will cause utter mayhem on your pretty face. I get it. Too much risk with an unknown reward. Why go for it?

Make sure to keep reading for a list of the many, many benefits and why the rewards SO outweigh the (if any) risks. The same risks that y’all take when trying new Sephora-brand name and drugstore beauty products β™‘

Weeks had gone by, and quite honestly, I became so frustrated with the lack of time that I had daily, that it took to look just semi decent and somewhat put together. Never mind, glam . . . HA!Β  I did not have 30-minutes to do my makeup and really and truly take the “adequate” amount of time required for me to apply the layers upon layers (of makeup) so that I looked put together and well-sculpted. Heck, I have 10-15-minutes total to shower, make my hair look somewhat decent (hence the new mom-do), and apply my makeup. So what, that gives me about 5-7-minutes tops to allocate to makeup, huh? Unless you are an expert, no, a freakin’ wizard, how the heck can you start to finish do your makeup in such short a time span?

My frustrations at this point had gotten the best of me, and I had swirled into a makeup-free funk.

Then, the lightbulb went off… Maskcara, what?

I was laying in bed trying to fall asleep when the thought had entered my mind. I became so wrapped up in my thoughts that I literally could not sleep, I was so excited. I had immediately the next morning contacted infamous Instagram girl, and had asked her for more information regarding their products and their Artist program.

From start to finish, the conversation had lasted mere minutes, and it had ended with me impulsively signing on to become an Artist. I cannot describe it, other than it just felt right. It felt as if it were through God’s will, that I was led to this moment.

You’re thinkin’ I’m crazy, right?

Well, what I can tell you, is that I fall more and more in love with this beauty line each and every day. I have more time to spend with my daughter, heck, more time to do the things that I love. And honestly, I have never gotten more compliments… My skin has never looked better. I’m glowing.

I know that I am an exception from the rest. I am super impulsive. I trust my gut. I trust God, truly, just leaving it in His hands.

I guess I wanted to share this with you guys for a number of reasons. . .

  1. One, if you’re like me, HELL YA! You’re not crazy for being impulsive, youΒ areΒ just badass;
  2. Two, trusting your gut is important, but trusting God and his plan isΒ evenΒ more important;
  3. When in doubt, just go for it. If you want it badly enough, it will work, because you will make it work; and lastly,
  4. If you have not tried Maskcara beauty yet, what in the heck are you waitin’ for sista! Why fuss over your makeup, when you can spend that saved time, spending time with your loved ones, doing what you love, writing, praying, working out…

So, what are you waiting for?Β  Don’t just take my word for it, click here to read others’ testimony.

Get out there gorgeous.

MASKCARA BEAUTY FAST FACTS + BENEFITS

  • Founded on the premises that makeup should be fun, quick + easy AND that it should not cover up your natural beauty, but rather, enhance it;
  • Provides buildable coverage, with a weightless and natural finish;
  • Super affordable, comparable with drugstore makeup pricing;
  • Few + natural-rooted ingredients;
  • Ingredients are CRUELTY free, GLUTEN free + PARABEN free;
  • Everything is so gosh darn pretty, literally drool-worthy;
  • Sleek and simple: ONE small palette and ONE double-sided brush to achieve a full face; and lastly, I want to ask you:
  • Hate how foundation (may it be liquid, cream, or powder) drowns out your complexion?Β  UGH, annoying.Β  Stuck applying layers and layers of contour, highlight, bronzer, blush and illuminator?Β  UGH, even more annoying.Β  Well, you can leave those “UGH” moments at the door, because with Maskcara’s IIID foundation, you’ll be experiencing more “AH” (breath of fresh air) moments.

For y’all wanting more information, be sure to reach out either through the “Contact” section of this online journal, or through messaging on my Instagram page β™‘

Have a blessed week!

XO, ACD β™‘πŸ¦‹